No, the blog title couldn’t be a universal truth. If it is, life would have been a lot simpler. If certain affection is gauge by the number of times a person calls you, then girls wouldn’t have to spend time analyzing guys’ actions. They could easily record and track the calls they get from guys and draw the conclusion. The often he calls, the more he likes you. If things were simpler like that, it would be like eating a sumptuous meal, gorging it in without savoring how the ingredients were delectably selected complementing each other. Or could be like riding a rollercoaster without all the twirls and adventure. Would you love that? Shouldn’t we thank God it was the other way around?
We often commit our favorite mistake unconsciously, assuming too much. Things seemed different in our eyes. We add the drama and tend to romanticized everything. We neglect to consider the ‘other important things’ and willfully ignore these. A guy calling you everyday will not equate of him liking you. While we put meaning into every guy’s actions, we should always be on guard. Don’t let yourself be trapped in a pseudo relationship. You’re worth more than that. We are not for passing thru or a diversion nor an object to satiate his needs for emotional contentment. We are God’s precious princesses; let us not forget how God see us.
To share with you, I remember distinctly how my heart was marred few years back (I’m not part of a dgroup yet). I met a ‘Christian’ guy whom I became friends with instantly. We became really close and we’d often go out. I would say outright that his actions didn’t guard my heart. It was misleading. He would often call me and we’re literally burning the lines. I was overwhelmed with the attention I got that I realized I was thinking of him too much. Though we drew lines, I was into him already. I was addressed with endearments. As much as I enjoy the affection, things were becoming a burden for me. I was confused. Are we friends? Dating? Close to boyfriends and girlfriends? I confronted him and asked him about our status. I was more than crushed and hurt when he said I am his baby sister. It was just unexpected. I really thought we share something special. Since then I stopped assuming and became really cautious. I know the blame wasn’t all mine, but what happened scarred my heart. And I thank God because He has been faithful to me and has healed my heart.
Funny thing, I am often asked by a number of people why I don’t have a boyfriend yet (as if being single is a crime). Believe me, when I say often I mean a lot! I’m not sure if they feel sorry for me for lacking the experience or are they trying to rub it on my face that I’m not that super gorgeous that I haven’t had someone yet. I get this weird looks on their faces when I get to answer them truthfully as if I’m an alien. The rare times when I want to laugh but don’t because thinking that I’m weird is enough, I don’t want to be tagged a lunatic. (LOL)
I assure you both my heart and mind is functioning well. I’m like any ordinary girl. I have my fair shares of longing. Longing to be with someone, longing to be loved and cared for, someone who will really risk it all for me, you get the picture. I do feel these things too. The only difference is I know that the Lord has its timing, and mine hasn’t come yet. I am confident that the Lord will make all things beautiful in His time. So why rush? I don’t want to sound pious nor preachy but being in a relationship is just an icing on the cake. But to experience God’s love? Well, that’s the most wonderful thing anyone could ever experience in their lives.